Here it is Monday morning and I can't seem to get out of bed. I'm sure none of you ever have this problem. It doesn't only happen on Mondays, I have had trouble one Tuesday's and Friday's as well. Hell! There have been many days that I did not want to get up. If your anything like me....(human), sometimes the struggle is actually real. Real life stuff gets in the way of moving in the direction of your dreams. Just moving in any direction would be nice. I find that as I grow wiser (hate saying the word older) the things that I thought I wanted don't seem that important anymore. I don't need the newest outfit, or the hottest shoes, and I definitely do no need the negative vibes from people who are not adding to my life. Sometimes out of nowhere, "One of those days" just shows up. With out warning, with no face, or smile, just a load of unfiltered nagging thoughts of despair.
Questions like "why this, and why that". When is that breakthrough coming, and how am I gonna finish what I started without any means. Hearing these questions over and over in my head, leave me drained and full of self doubt. You see, I live as a divorce'. A title I never imagined I would wear. But here I am. Relearning life as a 50 year old single woman. Yes I am having fun, meeting people and experiencing lots of new things. I am also learning that it would be great to learn new things with someone by your side to cheer you on. To encourage you and hold you accountable, Someone who wants to see you win and actively supports who you are, and what you are doing. Every day is not bad, but on the bad days it would be nice to have that confidant encouraging you to look past the clouds and see the sun. Yes after a few hours of laying around, I eventually get up, freshen up and get moving and tell my self this too shall pass. I recite the many quotes I memorize...."today is a good day" "You can do anything you want" "You got this". Which ultimately helps me regain my positive vibe for the day.
I know many of us are dealing with different circumstance on the daily. Some bad and most good. Please know that life's little ups and downs are the universes' way of nudging us to go within. To take a moment and breathe. Take some time to listen to that still voice inside. That voice you hear telling you "it will be okay" "I will never leave you nor forsake you". These words give me comfort. I have learned to encourage myself, and stay focused on what positive things are happening in my life. Below find a few tips I use to fight the blues and stay heathy mentally and spiritually.
Meditate for at least 15 minutes a day. If possible first thing in the morning. This will help regulate your vibration and you can be intentional about your goals for the day.
Take a walk. Get outside and enjoy your surroundings. Feel the fresh air, see the blue skies. Walking will clear your mind and you burn calories.
Journal. Find a moment to write down what ever is going on with you. Things you are not ready to share with anyone. Getting the thoughts on paper will help to get them out of your head. You can come up with easy ways to solve or work out an issue on paper , which will free up some head space.
4. Stay present. Don't stress about tomorrow. Don't bog yourself down with self pity. Find gratefulness in the things that are good in your life. Fine joy in being alive, having a home or car. Finding a way to take pride
in the simple things can really change the way think.
Life is not always candy canes and sunshine, and we will always have "One of those days" when we feel like throwing in the towel. Just know that throwing in the towel is not an option. Winning is the only option. It may take time and work but it is possible to come out on top. I'm here with you.
I would love to hear your comments on how you deal with cloudy days.